Shibari for couples
What if giving control is the most intimate thing you can do? A session tailored for the two of you, with me in Eke near Ghent.
Remove the veil of getting to know each other. The pressure of the ropes on your skin is a direct, immediate stimulus. It awakens your nerves. As you surrender to the rope, in a dance of control and surrender, you notice that your body evokes desires that had been suppressed.
Who this is for
You do not need experience with shibari, tantra, or bodywork for a casual session. You do need curiosity, and the willingness to stay present in your body, even when it gets exciting.
You fit this if:
- you want to reduce the distance or routine in your relationship
- one of you or both are curious about consciously playing with control, trust, and surrender
- you want to get to know the tension that arises when desire is built up without being immediately fulfilled
- you are willing to step out of your familiar roles and meet each other anew
- you want to discover how safety and vulnerability can strengthen each other
What you can expect
I tailor a private session to your wishes, fantasies, and rhythm. What remains constant is the tantric character. The focus is on the art of interaction and the subtle tension that arises between you. What we seek here is refinement.
The physical power of desire without haste. You are initiated into the power of desire when it does not need to be fulfilled. There is delay. There is attention. There is space for a gaze that lasts longer than usual, a touch that announces itself before it arrives, a waiting that builds up in the body. That slowness is a prerequisite. Desire needs time to become visible.
Experimenting with boundaries, supported by safety. There is space to experiment with boundaries, where tension is polarized with safety and support. Touching a boundary is different from crossing a boundary. We work with ongoing check-ins and adjust as needed. Precisely because safety is complete, surrender becomes possible, as a choice to trust.
Rope as a language between you. Rope becomes more than material here. It becomes a way to speak to each other without words. An exchange in which both roles require equal courage and presence.
Practical
- Where. At my place in Eke near Ghent, in a quiet and warm space.
- Duration. Between two and four hours.
- Price. Two hundred twenty-five euros for the first two hours, then fifty-five euros per half hour. Excluding VAT, to be paid in cash or via mobile banking.
Would you like to get to know each other first? Request a non-binding intake conversation via contact.
How intense it is
A couples session goes at your pace. On the chili system, it can range from level 1 to level 3. In the intake, we agree on this in advance, including clothing and boundaries, and during the session, it can be adjusted to less at any time.
Read how the chili system works and why I work trauma-informed. How I handle safety is on safety and consent.
Three ways to work together with rope
Couples can work with me in three ways. Some choose one, others combine them over time.
- Technical lessons. Do you want to learn the art of rope yourself? In progressive levels from L1 to L3, you will discover rope technique, safety, and the roles of rigger and bunny. The complete lesson offerings are on learning shibari.
- Group workshops. I regularly give workshops for about twenty participants, around themes such as surrender, shame, and the game of control. The current offerings are in the agenda.
- Customized private sessions. Fully tailored to you as a couple, at my place in Eke. You can learn to tie knots together, feel how surrendering to each other adds to your intimacy, and sense how a state of surrender opens a gateway to deeper connection.
What couples write about it
Our session as a couple was incredibly connecting. Michael knew perfectly how to bring one of us into surrender while the other received with a tantric heart opening. The power and at the same time softness of the ceremony was very captivating. As a couple, we enjoyed every second of this warm and safe setting. We look forward to the next exploration.
Wim, 2025
We came with the idea that I would go into the ropes, but after you gave us that exercise to feel into, it was still a surprise that my husband would go into the ropes and I would take control. It was a completely new setting for us and wonderful to discover. A gate that opened.
Cyn, 2025
What a journey you can provide
From shame to surrender. In Bind Me Loose, a tantra weekend that takes place several times a year, you go through a ritual process. A weekend in which you may meet the shadow sides, feel the animal power within yourself, and learn that letting go is liberating.
If you combine the private session with the workshops and Bind Me Loose, you build something that goes beyond a one-time experience:
- a shared language for desire, surrender, and polarity
- a way to see each other anew, even after years together
- the discovery that shame can transform into strength through experience
- an experience of the animal, vibrant layer within yourself that gets little space in daily life
- a relational foundation where vulnerability becomes a place of meeting
Frequently asked questions about couples sessions
No. Soft, close fitting clothing works fine, a pair of yoga trousers or a comfortable shirt. On skin the rope has more effect, and that is entirely your choice.
No. Presence, breath and conscious touch are woven into the session in a practical way. I guide you step by step. No prior knowledge is needed.
Yes. Most couples who come to me have never worked with rope. I build everything up calmly and work at your pace, with attention to consent and safety.
No. You choose which role you explore, rigger or bunny. Many couples swap over time, so you both learn to give and to receive.
Then we stop. We make clear agreements beforehand about communication and non verbal signals. Consent is no formality here, it is the ground everything stands on.
No. These are not BDSM sessions. I work avoiding pain and with continuous check-ins, from conscious intimacy and consent. We work towards a surrender without pain, one that arises when the safety and the holding feel right.
Report injuries or sensitive spots beforehand. We always adjust positions and pressure to your bodies. The session is accessible to almost anyone, regardless of flexibility or fitness. Some conditions do ask for extra care: asthma, because the physical and mental strain can trigger an attack and pressure on the chest asks caution; heart conditions, because tying and certainly suspension load the heart and circulation; circulation problems, because weak blood flow can be worsened by rope and lead to tissue damage, which often plays a part with diabetes or nerve damage; blood disorders such as haemophilia or thrombosis, where pressure on circulation points can lead to bleeding or clots; and pregnancy, where pressure on the belly and the changed circulation carry risk. Always discuss this in the intake.
A session lasts between two and four hours. The price is two hundred and twenty five euro for the first two hours and then fifty five euro per half hour, excluding VAT. I shape the session around your wishes.
I give private sessions and technical classes at my place in Eke near Ghent, in a quiet and warm space. The group workshops are at various locations, and the dates are in the calendar.
Yes. For many people receiving is harder than giving. The rope settles the body and helps you surrender to what you are given. That is the heart of the path from shibari to tantric touch.