Shibari for couples
What if giving control is the most intimate thing you can do?
Take the veil away from knowing each other. The pressure of the ropes on your skin is a direct, immediate stimulus. It awakens your nerves. As you surrender to the ropesin a dance of control and surrender,you notice that your body evokes desires that were suppressed.
What couples experience
"Our session as a couple was incredibly connecting. Michael knew perfectly how to bring one of us into surrender while the other received with a tantric heart opening. The power and at the same time softness of the ceremony was very captivating. As a couple, we enjoyed every second of this warm and safe setting. We look forward to the next exploration."
Wim, 2025
"We came with the idea that I would be in the ropes, but after you gave us that exercise to feel into, it was a surprise that my husband would be in the ropes and I would take control. It was a completely new setting for us and wonderful to discover. A gate that opened."
Cyn, 2025
Practical
At Shibari-Tantra, we work according to your wishes and fantasies..
Duration: between 2 hours - 4 hours
Price: €225 for the first 2 hours, then €55 per half hour (excl. VAT - CASH or Mobile Banking)
What can you expect
A private session is tailored to your wishes, fantasies, and rhythm. What remains constant is the tantric character. The focus is on the art of interaction and the subtle tension that arises between you, not on the brute exertion of power or pure sexual pleasure. What we seek here is refinement.
The physical power of desire without haste
You are initiated into the physical power of desire when it does not need to be fulfilled. There is delay. There is attention. There is space for a gaze that lasts longer than usual, a touch that announces itself before it arrives, a waiting that builds up in the body. That slowness is not a technique, but a condition. Desire needs time to become visible.
Experimenting with boundaries, supported by safety
There is space to experiment with boundaries, where tension is polarized with safety and support. Touching a boundary is not the same as crossing a boundary. We work with continuous check-ins and adjust as needed. Precisely because safety is complete, surrender becomes possible. Not as giving up, but as choosing to trust.
Rope as a language between you
Rope becomes more than material in this session. It becomes a way to communicate with each other without words. An exchange in which leading is not harsh and surrender is not weak, where both roles require equal courage and presence. Those who bind practice precision and attention. Those who are bound practice receiving and letting go.
For whom
A private session is a loose or optional deepening within a broader trajectory of tantric workshops. The workshops form the foundation. There, you explore together with others the language of rope, the frameworks of consent, and the dynamics between leading and letting go. You learn to feel how surrender can be liberating. How shame is a silent brake that you may have been carrying for years. How beneath that shame lives something powerful and primal that asks for space.
A private session is for couples who want to take this experience into a more personal space, just for the two of you.
You fit here as:
- You want to reduce the distance or routine in your relationship.
- One or both of you are curious about consciously playing with control, trust, and surrender.
- You want to get to know the tension that arises when desire is built up without being immediately fulfilled.
- You are willing to step out of your familiar roles and meet each other again.
- You want to discover how safety and vulnerability can strengthen each other.
Experience with shibari, tantra, or bodywork is not necessary for a casual session. Curiosity and the willingness to stay present in your body, even when it gets exciting, are essential.
Wil je eerder kijken naar mogelijke Shibari Workshops en tantra retreats ?
The process as a whole
Those who want to go further can supplement the private session with the full process. This process is built around three movements:
- From functioning to feeling.In the workshops, we slow down. You learn what lives beneath daily life: tension, desire, unspoken needs. Not therapy, but physical exploration.
- From shame to surrender.InBind me loose, a tantra weekend that takes place three times a year, you will go through a ritual process. A weekend where you can meet the shadow sides, feel the primal power within yourself, and learn that letting go is not weakness but liberating.
- From group to intimacy.In the private session, you bring back what you discovered in the workshops and the weekend to your relationship. What arises between you is solely yours. It is also an opportunity to first feel what surrender and renewed polarity can do for you.
You can find the complete range of workshops and events on theagenda.
What the program can offer you as a couple
If you combine the private session with the workshops and Bind Me Loose, you will build something that goes beyond a one-time experience:
- A shared language for desire, surrender, and polarity.
- A way to see each other again, even after years together.
- The discovery that shame is not something to hide, but something that can transform into strength through experience.
- An experience of the animal, vibrant layer within yourself that gets little space in daily life.
- A relational foundation where vulnerability is not a weakness but a place of meeting.
Ready to go beyond one experience?
One workshop opens a door. A program allows you to truly go through it. Those who choose multiple experiences receive a package discount that increases with the depth of the program.
Couple Program Basic
To test the waters.
Two workshops of your choice. 400 € →360 € (10% discount)
Couple Program Deepening
When the first experience opens up more than you expected.
Three workshops of your choice + one private session. 840 € →714 € (15% discount)
Complete program: From functioning to feeling
For couples who do not want to learn something, but want to become something.
Three workshops +Untie Me tantra weekend+ one private session. 1,240 € →992 € (20% discount)
FAQ
Do we need to undress?
No. Soft, form-fitting clothing works too — yoga pants or a comfortable shirt is fine. The ropes do have more effect on the skin. You decide this entirely for yourselves.
What if one of us wants to stop?
Dan stoppen we. We maken vooraf duidelijke afspraken over communicatie en non-verbale signalen. Consent is geen formaliteit hier, het is de basis van alles.
Do we need experience with tantra?
Nee. Aanwezigheid, ademhaling en bewuste aanraking worden op een praktische manier in de sessie verweven. We begeleiden jullie stap voor stap. Geen voorkennis nodig.
Are there physical limitations we need to consider?
Report injuries or sensitive areas in advance. We always adjust positions and pressure to your bodies. The session is accessible to almost everyone, regardless of flexibility or fitness.
