The five kinds
Shibari meets Tantra is a series. Every edition carries its own theme, and the build-up of the day is the same each time. Six times a year one of them comes round.
- Massage. Rope and touch meet each other. The rope brings surrender, the massage reaches what waits underneath. That is the day described further down this page.
- Surrender. A day that goes deeper into the rope itself and into what makes surrender possible in your body. The day programme stays at level 1 and the evening opens a rope temple at level 2. Read about Surrender.
- Un-Shame. Inspired by Existential Kink we look at what happens when you embrace the part of yourself you have always hidden. Blindfolds, play, and the art of receiving a no without taking it personally. Read about Un-Shame.
- Primal Play. The animal in you that gets to breathe again. Animal archetypes, hunting and being hunted, instinct instead of control, with the same care around it. Read about Primal Play.
- The Bind Me Loose weekend. A whole weekend instead of a single day, with room to land, to open and to really let go. The deepest step in the series. Read about the weekend.
The massage edition up close
There is a place in you that longs to stop doing. To be held without questions. To finally receive. Completely.
In this day-long immersion shibari and tantra massage meet. The ropes bring you into a state of surrender. The massage touches what lies beneath. Together they open your gate.
Where the tantra massage comes in
Many people search for tantra massage in Ghent and end up looking at standalone sessions. With me, tantric touch lives inside this workshop day, as part of a larger whole. I do not offer standalone tantra massage as a separate service. If that is what you are looking for, I work with people who do offer it as a separate session. You will find them under friends and partners.
What you learn here is how touch and rope strengthen each other. A tie that settles you makes touch calmer. Touch that carries attention makes a tie softer. That interplay is the whole point of the day.
What you learn in the massage edition
- Rope that carries. Ties in which the body can rest, so that touch lands in a body that has stopped bracing.
- Reading a body. Where someone holds on, where they let go, and how you follow that with your hands instead of with your plan.
- Giving and receiving. You do both that day, because giving well starts with having received.
- Oil, warmth and pace. How touch changes when rope is part of it, and how slowness does more than pressure.
- Closing well. Aftercare, and the quiet a body needs to keep what it received.
Nobody has to be good at anything here. I show you what you need, step by step, and I come round while you work.
How a day unfolds
Every edition has its own theme, and the shape of the day stays the same. The day is built so that each step carries the next.
- Arriving. We get to know each other and build together the safety the rest of the day rests on.
- Warming up. Exercises around the theme, the technique you need that day, and how we work with consent.
- Working. This is where it goes deeper, with a temple night or an exchange in massage.
- Landing. Coming to rest together, with a closing circle where you can share what came up.
Intensity: 🌶️🌶️ level 2
I work with a chilli system that shows what the intensity may be for your nervous system. That way you know beforehand what you are stepping into and can choose for yourself.
Level 2, The opening. Sensuality is given room. Clothes can come off, always your choice. We work with the flow of desire and intimacy. You are invited to drop out of your head and into your body.
During an exchange in massage we work nude, and at the temple night of Unshame you choose for yourself. If you would rather meet rope with your clothes on, come to the free introduction or to classes L1 to L3. Those sit at level 1.
Read how the chilli system works and why I work trauma-informed.
Intensiteit: 🌶️🌶️🌶️ level 3 in Amsterdam
In Amsterdam there is a steam edition together with Christina Oud. She teaches specific tantra massage techniques that are very intense and for which you need to be naked.
Who this is for
You do not need any shibari experience. Some experience with tantra or body work does help, because the day goes deeper than an introduction.
- Come on your own or as a pair, both are welcome.
- I do not assign partners. The warm-up lets you feel for yourself who you are comfortable with.
- This is explicitly not a dating event.
- Maximum 20 participants, and I watch the balance between men and women. That is why I sometimes close ticket sales for a while.
- I guide in Dutch and in English.
Safety carries everything
I work with continuous check-ins while tying, with anatomical knowledge of nerves and pressure, and with rope I select myself. Surrender here happens without pain and without pressure. You set your own limit and your own pace.
Read also how I work with safety and consent.
Practical
- When. Six times a year, each time a full day.
- Where. Changing locations in Flanders and the Netherlands, among them Tongeren, Kampenhout and Amsterdam.
- Price. From 90 euro per person. The exact amount is listed with the date in the agenda.
- Booking. Through Hipsy, with the link next to the date.
Would you rather start smaller? Come to the free introduction, or take a look at the classes of de rope jam.