Shibari meets Tantra
Six times a year I hold a full day where rope, presence and tantric touch come together. Each edition centres on one theme.
Shibari teaches you to tie. Tantra teaches you to stay present with what that brings up. In this day I bring the two together, and that gives you something neither can give on its own: surrender that is held.
I work with small groups, with warm-up exercises that let you get to know each other before a single rope comes out of the bag, and with check-ins throughout the day. You decide how far you go, and you can stop at any moment without explaining why.
Where the tantra massage comes in
Many people search for tantra massage in Ghent and end up looking at standalone sessions. With me, tantric touch lives inside this workshop day, as part of a larger whole. I do not offer standalone tantra massage as a separate service. If that is what you are looking for, I work with people who do offer it as a separate session. You will find them under friends and partners.
What you learn here is how touch and rope strengthen each other. A tie that settles you makes touch calmer. Touch that carries attention makes a tie softer. That interplay is the whole point of the day.
How a day unfolds
Every edition has its own theme, and the shape of the day stays the same. The day is built so that each step carries the next.
- Arriving. We get to know each other and build together the safety the rest of the day rests on.
- Warming up. Exercises around the theme, the technique you need that day, and how we work with consent.
- Working. This is where it goes deeper, with a temple night or an exchange in massage.
- Landing. Coming to rest together, with a closing circle where you can share what came up.
Intensity: 🌶️🌶️ level 2
I work with a chilli system that shows what the intensity may be for your nervous system. That way you know beforehand what you are stepping into and can choose for yourself.
Level 2, The opening. Sensuality is given room. Clothes can come off, always your choice. We work with the flow of desire and intimacy. You are invited to drop out of your head and into your body.
During an exchange in massage we work nude, and at the temple night of Unshame you choose for yourself. If you would rather meet rope with your clothes on, come to the free introduction or to classes L1 to L3. Those sit at level 1.
Read how the chilli system works and why I work trauma-informed.
The themes
- Unshame. Working with blindfolds, and with the art of receiving a no without taking it personally.
- Steam edition. An edition with a second guide alongside me.
- Primal Play. Rawer and more animal, held with the same care.
Which theme comes when is listed in the agenda below.
Who this is for
You do not need any shibari experience. Some experience with tantra or body work does help, because the day goes deeper than an introduction.
- Come on your own or as a pair, both are welcome.
- I do not assign partners. The warm-up lets you feel for yourself who you are comfortable with.
- This is explicitly not a dating event.
- Maximum 20 participants, and I watch the balance between men and women. That is why I sometimes close ticket sales for a while.
- I guide in Dutch and in English.
Safety carries everything
I work with continuous check-ins while tying, with anatomical knowledge of nerves and pressure, and with rope I select myself. Surrender here happens without pain and without pressure. You set your own limit and your own pace.
Read also how I work with safety and consent.
Practical
- When. Six times a year, each time a full day.
- Where. Changing locations in Flanders and the Netherlands, among them Tongeren, Kampenhout and Amsterdam.
- Price. From 90 euro per person. The exact amount is listed with the date in the agenda.
- Booking. Through Hipsy, with the link next to the date.
Would you rather start smaller? Come to the free introduction, or take a look at the classes.
Frequently asked questions
This day sits at level 2 of my chilli system. Sensuality is given room and clothes can come off, always your choice. During an exchange in massage we work nude. You always set your own limit, and you can stop at any moment without explaining.
No. I explain everything you need for the day. Experience with tantra or body work does help, because the day goes deeper than an introduction.
Yes. A large part of the group comes alone. I do not assign partners: we do warm-up exercises that let you sense each other, so the choice is one you feel.
No. People do meet each other here, and the day is about the work. Anyone looking for a date is in the wrong place.
Shibari and tantric touch have a sensual quality. There is no sexual contact in what I offer. Whatever it stirs in you in terms of connection or arousal is yours. My role is to keep the space safe.
Tantric touch is part of the day, as part of the whole. I do not offer standalone tantra massage as a separate service.
Consent is the foundation. We agree on it explicitly at the start, I check in during the work, and you can stop at any moment without explaining.
In Dutch and in English. When there are participants who speak neither, I do both.