Shibari meets Tantra - Overgave

A day about rope and about what it takes to let yourself go.

Surrender asks something of you. It asks that you feel safe enough to put down control for a while. It asks for trust in the hands that hold you. And it asks that you know your own yes and your own no, because everything that follows rests on those.

In this edition I take a whole day for that. We go deeper into the rope and deeper into what makes surrender possible in your body.

Day programme, 1 pm to 6 pm 🌶 level 1

We start calmly, with a short circle and the agreements about consent and safety. After that I let you feel what rope does to your nervous system, and how you can steer how deep that goes.

Deepening the rope. Patterns that carry the body, tempo, tension, and the art of working calmly.

Looking at what holds surrender back in you, and what makes it softer.

Breathing and slowing down, until you feel where your yes sits.

Swapping roles, so you get to know both sides. Whoever holds learns something you only learn from that place, and the same is true the other way around.

Room for silence, for emotion that comes up, and for aftercare.

Clothes stay on during the day programme. That makes this day suitable as the first Shibari meets Tantra you take part in.

Potluck, 6 pm to 7.30 pm

We eat together. Bring a dish to share.

Rope temple, 7.30 pm to 10 pm 🌶🌶 level 2

In the evening I open the rope temple. A room where you may play with one another, with the rope you were handed that day. Sensuality gets room here and clothing can come off, always your choice.

I stay present and hold the room, and the agreements about consent stay exactly the same as during the day.

Who it is for

For anyone who has come across shibari or tantra before and wants to go further. You do not have to be advanced. Solos are welcome. I do not assign partners, and the warm up lets you get to know and sense each other so the choice happens on feeling.

From 25 years old. I guide this day in Dutch, with translation into English where needed.

Intensity

I work with a chilli system that shows what the intensity may be for your nervous system, so you know beforehand what you are stepping into.

🌶 Level 1, the connection. Clothes stay on, and we reach out. That is how the whole day programme runs.

🌶🌶 Level 2, the opening. Sensuality gets room and clothing can come off, always your choice. That is how the rope temple runs.

You may always drop down a level. If halfway through something feels like too much, you step out without having to explain it.

Safety and consent

We set out consent explicitly at the start, you always ask before you touch or tie someone, and you may stop at any moment. I keep an eye on nerves and pressure, and I step in when a tie is not sitting safely. Nothing is done with pain.

Practical

When. Saturday 19 December 2026, 1 pm to 10.30 pm.

Where. Nukerke, Maarkedal. You get the address after you book.

What to bring. A dish for the potluck, and clothes you move easily in. Rope is provided, bringing your own is fine.

Booking. Through Hipsy.

What I ask of you

You take responsibility for your own process. You know your limits and you say them. You respect other people's limits, also when they surprise you. You are sober. Everything shared here stays here.